Commitment is not only a great leadership quality but a great quality to have as a decent human
being. Nowadays more and more people are becoming less committed, in all aspects of their lives. We're not committed at work, to our friends, in relationships...etc. We come and go as we please, we quit when it gets hard and we're only as dependable as far as our feelings will allow us to be.
People refuse to just commit. We're afraid that if we commit either we'll be mistreated or we'll get bored or miss something better. We can't continue to live our lives like this. We must pick something that we're compassionate about and commit to it. How do we do this?
First we must know what we're committing to. We must know that what we commit to will better us as a person. Because lets face it some people commit to things or people that will destroy them and their future. You don't become committed to anybody or anything that is spiraling out of control. We do that sometimes in relationships whether in a friendship or with a significant other. We'll be loyal to somebody that is going nowhere in life. Instead of being the person that they turn to we get caught up in their mess, and when we try to get away from them they guilt us into coming back. So many people's lives have been ruined because they pointed they're loyalties in the wrong direction. If we're in a job that we know is wrong or going to a church that we know is crooked then get out of there, but don't give up on committing because of on bad apple.
Second we must put our feelings aside. If we are committed then our feelings can't be involved. I don't mean feelings like love or compassion, I mean feelings like hate, envy, anger...etc. We can let our hurt feelings dictate whether or not we will continue to be committed. If we work somewhere and our boss cusses us out we don't quit. If we go to church and the Pastor preaches something that we don't "agree" with we don't get up and find another church. We as a people now are swayed by whatever direction the wind blows. We need to stop this. Our feelings have nothing to do with our commitments and vice versa. We need to leave our feelings and disagreements at home, and if our commitment is our marriage then we need to be careful how we point our feeling at our spouse. If your feelings get hurt, who cares.
Third we should let our commitment to the organization be above our commitment to people. People will let you down period. This is just a fact of life. Not necessarily because they're out to get you but because they have lives that they live outside of their relationship with you. We all come from different upbringings, in different regions of the world. We all have our own personalities and our own version of what's right and wrong. Even if we grew up in the same house we'd still be our own person. What this means is people will rub you the wrong way from time to time. We have to just use it as a learning experience and move on. The mission of the organisation that we're apart of is what's important anyways. We do what we do to move our organisation forward. Whether it's a church or you're in the military or you work for McDonalds. We have to all learn to get along with one another for the sake of the organisation. But so many times things will be dropped because of people's dislike for one another, or people will promote their friends over people that deserve it. We must try to steer clear of this way of thinking. Our feelings for people must not be involved in our day to day decision making. As easy as that is to say and yet so hard to do we must make sure we do it. We cannot let the mission fail, no matter what the mission is, because of how we feel about certain people.
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